Unless you are not aware about what you are doing, you cannot change something. The first step for you to take is to be aware of your attention and with your expression in the moment. Just by changing your attention you interrupt the pattern of rejection. This also takes the attention away from the descriptions in your mind of what you should be.
Try
to ask these types of questions to help you make the shift throughout the day.
What emotion am I assigning in my voice? What is my attitude? What am I
expressing? In the moment, these questions will get your attention to your
expression. They also shift your expression and point of view to one of
investigation instead of letting the voice in your head express a story of
rejection.
The
first step to change is to being conscious of your expression. You cannot
change something that you are not aware of. Awareness to something does not
make the expression of self rejection and this is the very first reason why
this step is effective.
The
mind leads us in circles and illusions. To just stop it and act differently is
the mind’s solution to stopping self rejection. But this again drives our mind
to create an abstract self picture of being someone else. This approach feeds
the self rejection for not having proficient the change yet. Start with
consciousness of your expression and your attention in order to avoid this
trap. It allows you to better avoid the dangerous voice in your head and the
self rejecting dynamic that it encourages. An expression that doesn’t create
rejection is the activity of watching and curiosity.
Joy
and happiness are not certain because you achieve your self help goals. These
are just games we put up in the mind in order to generate our expression of
love and acceptance. When you express emotions of fear and anger you are
unhappy. When you communicate love you are happy. It is your expression in the
moment that determines the happiness and joy in your life.
We
have become trained in our lives to express ourselves in reaction to outside
events. Emotional responses and deliberately choose our attitude will our
happiness be guaranteed only when we break these conditioned. The key to
assuring your happiness is by having awareness and direction over your
expression.
To
communicate love is the key to create a genuine happiness to your life. You
already have the key to your own happiness since your expression of love is
exclusively up to you. What remains is for you to determine what you do with
your key. The key to happiness and accomplishment in life does not come by
achieving but rather is a result of how we express ourselves. When you express
love and acceptance you are happy and when you express rejection and judgment
you will be unhappy.
Self
approval is the way out of self rejection. Change the feelings you are
expressing, you do not have to transform what you are or what you have to be
happy. You will be feeling angry once you are expressing anger. If you express
jealousy or guilt, then you will feel jealousy and guilt too. You are probable
to experience happiness and fulfillment if you are expressing love. We
frequently connect feeling happy with who we were with what we had or what we
are doing. Those outside things were not making us happy. It was the love we
were expressing at the time that satisfied us.
You
will discover as you continue adding these activities to your life, it will
start to enhance and the vast majority never go back to where they were before.
Be
happy! It is no big surprise that the happiest people are also the most
successful people.
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